BUILD
ESTEEM & CONFIDENCE
Calgary
Workshop
Thanks to all
the people who attended the workshop.
We all had a great experience and the following is a summary of
some of the key highlights of the workshop.
The Thursday
night seminar drew a great group and Kelly introduced some of the
concepts around self-esteem. Kelly
described a model where he showed the difference between our essence and
the behaviors. Our essence is that part of us that is pure, that is not
affected by our experiences – who we truly are.
Our behaviors develop as we grow, and like masks, they start to
block access to our essence. Sometimes
we develop behaviors to help protect us from some challenge in our life,
but then continue to use the behavior later in our lives. When love comes towards us we can feel that we do not deserve
the love because people are not “really seeing me” they are seeing
the behaviors. Kelly talked
about how the workshop would help us clear some of these unnecessary
masks and live more in our essence.
One of the
participants on Thursday asked how to deal with unresolved issues with
somebody that has passed away. Kelly
explained that it was possible to work with the energy of the person and
resolve the issues even if they were not around to dialogue with.
On Friday
evening one of the participants talked about how she felt she was
sabotaging her life, even though she felt she had a loving family
upbringing. Through dialogue, Kelly helped her realize how she had been
feeling guilty for being “successful” and she was keeping herself
small because of her empathy for the suffering others were experienced.
Kelly helped her recognize her gift of sensitivity for others and
how she could open to the gift without staying small.
On Saturday
morning one of the participants shared how she had tied so much of her
self-esteem to her physical beauty.
As aging occurred she was realizing how she could no longer
depend on her physical beauty and Kelly showed her (and many others –
men and women) what her other gifts were. This process helped us to understand that esteem is much more
than physical beauty when we are able to recognize all our gifts.
The theme of
gifts continued in the afternoon. Another
participant shared how she was in sacrifice to her family and was not
following her purpose. Kelly
helped her uncover her gift to intuitively read people, which was
affectionately labeled “soul whispering”.
This was an amazing process that involved the whole group as we
all watched somebody discover and then claim their giftedness.
Sunday’s
main process centered on the challenge of self-esteem in relationships.
Two of the participants shared their unhappiness with their
current relationships, how they were in sacrifice, and how they and
their partners were suffering. Both
people were stuck in a place where they were looking for solutions to
their relationship challenges that would result in nobody getting hurt.
At the same time they were living with themselves partially
committed and partially disengaged with the relationship. Kelly helped them learn that in many adult cases, there was
no pain free solution to situations and sitting on the fence actually
hurts both people. In some
cases making the decisions can act as a “kick-start” to the partner
that is feeling most stuck. Most
importantly Kelly counseled dialogue with their partners and including
them in the decision making process.
The final
afternoon exercises were amazing and each of us journaled on what we had
learned and determined what some of the next steps would be after the
workshop. We concluded the workshop with an appreciation circle and
people shared on what they had received from attending the workshop.
Many people left with an enhanced sense of their self-esteem.
