Transcending The Seduction Of Addictions Workshop
Thursday
night kicked us off with a talk about how when we are children we are
expected to fit into our family system to suit our parents and not
necessarily to suit our personalities. There were three really heart
felt testimonials and lots of questions.
On
Friday we got to know our buddies and home group and picked challenge,
way through, and gift cards to add another focus to the weekend.
While
investigating the way we can get addicted to clinging to relationship
without risking to see if it is actually an appropriate fit or not, the
weekend’s first process was around expectations in relationship and
getting clear about what our top values are. Then evaluating to see if
both people’s values are congruent.
We
made lists of our addictions and looked at a list of possible triggers
for those addictions so we could get at the root causes that feed them.
Then we got together with our small groups to do some sharing of wisdom
around what we had discovered.
Through
a powerful sharing we looked at how the crushing of our self-esteem as a
child can lead to pointlessness and a lack of feeling that we can
succeed. Addictions can become a distraction from facing those feelings.
We witnessed through a participant, the facing of the source cause of
the loss of esteem and the healing of the lie that laid in the
subconscious claiming the person had no value. Correcting that long held
misperception picked up in childhood cleared the path to knowing
self-value but not just with the conscious mind. Now the knowing was
grounded in the subconscious and in the emotional body.
On
Sunday we walked through an incredibly touching forgiveness piece for
fathers. The whole room felt it.
We
got into our small groups again and talked about what was learned over
the weekend and what we were going to do as a next step when we leave
for home.
All
in all we learned how addicted we could be to our stories, desiring to
identify with a country / culture / religion / home / family etcetera
rather than trusting our true identity that is unscathed by the changing
of our outer story.
We
found that if we did not grieve our wounds and forgive those involved
(including ourselves), we manifested behaviours (such as addictions) to
try and cope.
