Congruence: Harmony, agreement, suitableness, consistency,
fit together, integrated.
We may often fall into the belief that we are fully directing
our lives with our conscious minds and decisions. If that were truly the
case we would be getting what we think we want, more often. What I would
suggest is that what we co-create in our lives is strongly influenced by
our conscious minds, our subconscious minds, our ego’s intentions, and
our soul’s intentions.
If it were true that our soul is closely connected to
Lifeforce and the principals of free will, then it would follow that the
soul’s agenda would be suggested to us at some level, but not pushed
at us. On the other hand the higher principals of free will do not limit
the ego. The ego gets to push its agenda on us if it so chooses.
I would suggest that the ego, and the soul, are influencing
both the conscious mind and the unconscious mind.
This would mean that we have the following going on:
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An
ego influenced conscious mind.
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A
soul influenced conscious mind.
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An
ego influenced subconscious mind.
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A
soul influenced subconscious mind.
If these elements of self are not in alignment with each
other we will suffer disharmony and confusion in our lives.
For example the following could all be going on at the same
time:
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The
ego influenced conscious mind says, I want relationship because I think
it will meet my needs for security and make me happy.
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The
soul’s ability to influence the conscious mind may not be in play
because there has been no conscious openness to its input.
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The
ego influenced subconscious mind, says stay clear of relationships. All
past ones have led to pain.
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The
soul can influence the subconscious mind because the subconscious mind
operates with openness to gathering all incoming information. The soul
might be suggesting that an appropriate relationship could be a great
way to heal some of the past wounds so there could be a renewed openness
to receiving love.
With all these sometimes-conflicting messages going on at the
same time it is no wonder that we live with internal struggle, confusion
and inability to receive what we think we want.
If we choose to align the ego’s will with the soul’s
guidance we can start to realign ourselves and begin the journey towards
congruence.
This alignment starts at the level of the conscious mind. If
we choose to have a soul directed ego we can make a conscious choice to
listen and follow that guidance.
So for instance in the case above, the scenario would switch
to the following:
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The
ego influenced conscious mind would be aligned with the souls suggestion
to start an appropriate relationship.
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The
soul influenced conscious mind would be in agreement to start an
appropriate relationship.
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The
ego influenced subconscious mind, still says stay clear of
relationships. All past ones have led to pain.
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The
soul influenced subconscious mind would be open to the idea that an
appropriate relationship could be a great way to heal some of the past
wounds so there could be a renewed openness to receiving love.
This would mean that all that would be left to do is to start
to live out some new experiences that counter the ego influenced
subconscious minds theory’s that were built on past experiences. In
order to get past the power of the subconscious minds ability to
sabotage the possibility of having new relationship, some form of
healing work could be done to clear the old blocks and make room for new
risks.
Exercise:
Journal on the following:
1.
From your ego influenced conscious mind pick something you would
like to have in your life but do not have, or something you do have, but
would like more of.
2.
Ask intuitively what your soul influenced conscious mind would
want for you in regards to this. (This will also be the message the soul
has been giving the subconscious mind).
3.
Ask for help from your intuition in getting information about
what in your ego influenced subconscious mind is blocking you from what
you want. (You will know you have tapped into the subconscious if you
are getting new information. If you are writing down information that
you are already aware of then it is coming from the conscious mind not
the subconscious.)
4.
Go back to your soul influenced consciousness and ask what it
would suggest as ways to move past or heal the unhealthy patterns from
the ego influenced subconscious mind. Remember you still have the
freedom to act on the ideas or not, so your ego does not need to be
afraid of you writing them down.
5. Ask yourself what, if anything, would you be willing to risk doing from the suggestions your soul is making. If you were willing, when and how would you put these into action?